Sunday, 1 February 2009

~A Butterfly Flaps It's Wings~

It's been 2 years to the day since I split with Dawn.

When I actually sit and think about it, I can hardly believe how much my life has changed over the last 24 months.

There's still room for improvement, lot's of it, but things are generally moving in the right direction.

I've tried to trace back the chain of events that have led to my sitting here typing these words, but it's still a little difficult to see the wood for the trees.

I guess I'll just blame it on the proverbial butterfly flapping it's wings on a Chinese hillside......

TONIGHT'S MOOD: Reflective

SOUNDTRACK: David Bowie - 'Changes'

My epitaph...

FOOTNOTE: I wonder what I'll be writing in another 2 years?

The Separated Groover


  1. "We live in the present, we dream of the future, but we learn eternal truths from the past." (Madame Chiang Kai-shek)

  2. It's wonderful how our lives change on a daily basis. Sometimes for the good, unfortunately, it's sometimes for the bad, too. I hope you've grown from life's experiences, and continue to grow. Happy Sunday. Hugs.

  3. Groover, it's said that time heals all wounds, but does it really? I'm not so sure. Yes, I think the emotional pain we feel loses its grip on us as time passes after a relationship fails, but I don't think true love ever dies.

    I'm 47 years old and I have been in love exactly twice. The first woman died 13 years ago; she was my first love, my childhood sweetheart.

    The second woman is still around and lives in Miami, is married and has two children. We broke up 25 years ago, and yet, I still love her deeply to this day. I feel no emotional pain to speak of, but I still miss her and wonder often what my life would have been like if I had done things differently and waited for her to come back from college.

    I'm glad you're moving forward and putting things into perspective. Love is such a wonderful, but mysterious thing. It lives forever. Good luck, my friend.

  4. Xanadu:

    If there's one thing we can be sure of, it's that things will change.

    The trick is to make sure that as many of those changes as possible are positive ones.

  5. Timbook2:

    Truly the words of a man who's been there, done that and got the t-shirt.

    Thank you for being so open about your experiences.

  6. You have definitely made changes since that day. You are your own man moving toward the life you deserve. The rest of your life will be all that you choose it to be. You have the controls, now.

  7. Carla:

    I guess that I do as much of any of us do.

  8. I think one of the reasons I have enjoyed your journal so much is that I have been through many of the same changes, and I can relate!

    BTW, you did know that David Bowie is my boyfriend, didn't you? (That stuff you hear about "restraining order" and "100 feet away at all times" is really just a game. To keep things exciting and all.) ;)

  9. You telling us yer a butterfly, mate? And here was me thinkin' you looked kinda butch! ;-)

    I can sympathize with Timbbok2. Real loves, the ones to be cherished, have been few and far between for me. And the latest (quite possibly last) is too far away in so many respects and is behind too many insurmountable barriers for me to even conceive of a completely happy result.

    Sometimes, I wonder if it would be better not to experience such emotions if fate (or karma, or whatever you want to call it) conspire to show you what you cannot have....

    Hope it's not that way for you!

  10. Mary Kitt-Neel:

    You've certainly been reading through some pretty major changes.

    Yes, you'd mentioned that Bowie was your boyfriend once or twice before ;-P

  11. MrScribbler:

    I'm just a big softie really ;->

    Fate can be a bit of a bitch sometimes, unfortunately :-/

  12. In two years you and Carla will be in the French Riviera having a blast.

  13. Have you any regrets Andy? I suppose a split of that magnitude would give pause for massive reflection.

    Hope you are well.


  14. I'm placing my bets with Tuesday! French Riviera, oh yeah...

  15. My little girls father killed himself in 2001. Two years after that I was still bouncing off the walls a bit myself. But it does get better. That I do know.
    You will too.

  16. It's been three, almost four years since my wife left me because of my bipolar disorder. It's the third time I've been kicked in the teeth by love, but I keep looking and hoping.

    Congratulations on making progress. I've made some, but it doesn't sound at all like I've made nearly as much as you have. Reading your words I think that I may have let myself stagnate some. But then no one can change that but me, right?

  17. it's been quite a roller coaster ride, hasn't it? {hugs}

  18. I read a book once where the guy mentioned the butterfly effect. Then he added that the chaos in his family could only have been caused by a butterfly the size of Mothra. It always made me laugh.